“You can’t be successful at everything. You can’t have it all. We hear a lot of talk about work-life balance. Nonesense. You can’t have it all. You can’t. So any vision of success has to admit what it’s losing out on, where the element of loss is. ..So what I want to argue for, is not that we should give up on our ideas of success. But we should make sure that they are our own.”